#bts things i do at weddings

The Paper Elephant

It's wedding expo season! Have you been trolling booths? Wedding expos and showcases are really resourceful for newly engaged or curious couples. Most wedding professionals would agree, it’s a good idea to attend 1 or 2 of these events to get a better understanding of your vision and what’s out there.

But no, you won’t see me there. At the one (and only) expo that I ever participated in, I had a woman come up to me and very seriously ask, ‘what do you do?’

I found it nearly impossible to demonstrate my wedding planning services at the booth that day, so I just stood there and smiled. That poor woman, I don’t even blame her for being confused! There’s no pretty floral arrangement for me to showcase, or a delicious dessert out for tasting – nothing. So, it got me thinking… what do I do?

In hopes of locating my self-worth, I came home, later that day, and began jotting down random things that I’ve done at weddings, in addition to the broader services outlined in my planning packages. Here’s that exact list:

1. Pin on boutonnieres

2. Tie on corsages

3. Greet vendors

4. Answer vendor set-up questions

5. Make sure vendors are hydrated & eating

6. Find rooms for Mom’s to nurse/pump

7. Family mediation

8. Bustle dresses

9. Deal with seating chart drama

10. Field questions about the venue; toilet paper refills, where can you smoke, etc.

11. Clean & prep the bridal suite

12. Stand in the rain and hold umbrellas

13. Move furniture

14. Stand on ladders and change light bulbs

15. Handle dogs, when they’re in the ceremony

16. Handle the wedding cake; move it, top it, cut it

17. Run out for ice, alcohol, food, prescription medication, candles, batteries

18. Check on vendor’s contractual services

19. Pick up, unload, set-up, snip and arrange flowers

20. Carry wedding gifts back to the bridal suite

21. Collect all wedding cards and bring to the bridal suite

22. Arrive early

23. Stay late

24. Style details for photographers

25. Plate cocktail hour appetizers for the couple to eat

26. Get the couple drinks all night

27. Cue musicians

28. Print out speeches in the hotel lobby

29. Facilitate reception speeches

30. Double & triple-check the couple’s work; seating charts, meal choices, RSVPS

31. Set up/tear down chairs, tables, photo booths, backdrops, games, buffets

32. Sew woman into her dress

33. Steam dresses & suits

34. Sew on buttons

35. Tape hemlines

36. Hot glue heels

37. Eat hot dogs

38. Cut and rehydrate flowers

39. Give hugs

40. Reassure

41. Clean up vomit

42. Officiate

Sometimes I wish that the services I provide were tangible. But for now, it’s just this. With that, enjoy all the wedding shows & happy planning!


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